11 Brilliant Dating Tips For Teens
1. Agree that dating is a normal thing.
Whatever your parents would think, teenager’s dating is normal. You can’t learn everything that you ought to know about life, just from attending school and doing homework. Of course, you can get some additional experience at homes, but also very important to develop the ability to give feelings, emotions, some time to another person you like, and to learn how to give it back. All this is important to build a strong and solid family.
2. Learn to look for options.
Hints can sometimes be unappreciated, which can lead to disagreements. But in some cases your partner wouldn’t be agree with you, just because of unwilling to do something. Then you should show the art of negotiation. If you want to go to the movies, and your partner doesn’t want it, try to explain him that it is very important for you to see this movie, and tell him why you have to watch it. In other case, if your partner wants to do that you absolutely don’t want; you should find the option that will satisfy both of you.
3. Remember your mistakes and don’t step back.
The first thing to do is to find a suitable partner. You should understand that the first date won’t become a marriage which will last for the rest of your life. And if something wasn’t right for the first time, you should just stop and ask yourself what have gone wrong, what should I do to avoid the mistake so it won’t repeat in the future again. Be realist, don’t blame yourself if you fail, you’re just trying for the first time. You learn from your mistakes, each time improving and moving to more strong and reliable relationship. None of us is perfect, but there are certain things we all should know and use them in life. How to communicate with the opposite sex is one of the vital knowledge you should know.
4. Do not build relationships on jealousy and insults.
Jealousy is the most destructive force in your relationship. This emotion is a wild desire of your partner to know where you are. Of course, you are responsible for time, when you are with your partner, at this time you belong to him or her. But you’re a free man and you have a lot of other things to do. And, of course, you don’t have to report for each second spent without him or her. But you have your own interests and activities that your partner has to respect. He should understand it and give you the opportunity to be free. Another important factor in the relationship is trust, don’t forget about it.
5. During the date don’t control the action of your partner.
Do not let anyone enslave you, don’t be frightened to have your own opinion .If are told what to think, what to do, how to say, that means the man likes to control, you will feel a lack of freedom, break up with him immediately. The relationship may last for six weeks or six months, but in any case such a relationship will be over. At first sight it might seem that he’s caring about you, but he doesn’t, he’s just unreliable person. Youth is a dangerous time for everyone. But when someone forces a man to do something without his own will that is extremely dangerous, it can lead to irreversible consequences!
6. Never apologized for the behavior of your partner.
In the relationship each can behave inappropriately, but you never have to apologize for the actions of your partner, for his or her words. Your partner should take full response for his actions. If your partner isn’t ready to do so and you feel uncomfortable with him, then you should think of a break up.
7. Don’t go for a date with the person you feel discomfort with.
If you feel discomfort with the person you’re close to, then there is no sense to continue the relationship. You should feel yourself loved and desired. Flattery in small amounts is always relevant. For example during the date, you can thank your partner because of his good preparing. After that he’ll want to see you again and will try to look better then he was.
8. Don’t impose someone your relationship, if it doesn’t go well.
Don’t think you’ll build a good relationship with the man who isn’t interested in you. People like to be valued, first of all for their personality with all their good and bad sides. Everyone wants to be noticed for their personality. But being emotionally dependent of other character, you are depriving yourself of being a unique and individual person.
9. Estimate your partner as an independent person.
When people fell in love with each other, they can skip their partner’s shortcomings and think that they love it. But soon such strong feelings are becoming weaker, what leads to conflict and to destruction of the relationship. That’s why you should treat your partner as an independent person with his own interests and views. And don’t force him to follow your side, even if you only believe in it, let him chose himself.
10. Don’t find fault with your partner.
It’s normal to emphasize something you don’t like in your partner, but don’t criticize him too often, it can become nagging. And he’ll soon start watching and reproaching you with pleasure if he has a chance. However it can reflect on your relationships.
11. Have fun and enjoy.
Dating isn’t a marathon run, its fun and pleasure of being in a company of a man you’re in love with.
Be On The Safe Side
Don’t become a victim on holidays!
Soon there will be a chill in the air, bells will be ringing ,and we will all be running around like crazy getting ready for the holidays. No matter if you celebrate Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, or do your own thing we are all busy, busy people tend to be careless people, and careless people are just waiting to be a victim of “Crimes of Opportunity” What is that? Well there are three main types of crimes: Crime of Passion, Crime of Hate, and Crime of Opportunity. You can pretty much figure out what the first two are. Unless you have made an ex-lover or someone else really mad, you are most likely to become the victim of a “Crime of Opportunity” It is just like it sounds, the bad guy sees an opportunity and grabs it. So before you start your “Holiday To Do” list, read my “Holiday Must Do” list to avoid being a victim of a Crime of Opportunity:
“Holiday Must Do” list
° First off all, ladies PLEASE do not put your purse in the baby seat of the shopping cart then turn your back to it while you compare prices or look at the contents of what ever you are buying. By the time you realize your purse is gone, the bad guy not only has whatever cash you had, but your credit cards, your car keys and knows where you live. ALWAYS keep your purse over your shoulder, preferably across your chest. I know this is not the fashion statement that you want to make, but it is the safest way. And gentlemen, a good pick pocket can relieve you of the wallet you put in your back pack. In a crowded mall, the best thing is to wear a money belt under your clothes or put your cash and credit card in the inside pocket of your jacket.
° If you plan to buy a lot at one mall, do not make several trips to your car to drop off packages. If you must unload, bring a blanket to throw over the packages to conceal them. When you are walking through a parking lot have your hands full of packages you are very venerable. Go with a family member or a friend…it is more fun that say and,as they say, there is safety in numbers.
° You might start your shopping venture in day light, but remember as the year goes on, night comes earlier and earlier. Make sure you park under or very near good lighting.
° Always look to see who is around you when you are going to your vehicle. If someone looks out of place, return to the store and alert security…that is what they are there for.
° When you are returning to your car PLEASE have your keys in hand. (They can be used as a weapon if necessary)The man or woman who is fumbling around is an easy target. .
° When you are shopping don’t wear a bunch of expensive looking jewelry or flash a lot of cash…that is like saying, “Hey I am rich, rob me!” Take only one credit card and as little cash as possible.
° I you should be the victim, let the bad guy have the packages or purse, they can be replaced-you can’t. Even though you are scared try to remember what the guy looks like-the color of his hair, eyes, height, weight, what he was wearing and the direction of travel he took. The more detail you can provide the police the better. That said, keep your cell phone in your pocket that way you can call 911 right away.
What about at home?
° Having wrapped presents under the tree is exciting, true. Just make sure they are where anyone who looks into your window can’t see them…talk about a crime of opportunity.
° If you are giving a gift with a serial number, record it and keep it in a safe place. This increases your chances of getting the merchandise back.
° Going “Over the river and through the woods” to visit family or friends? Great! Just make sure your house or apartment looks occupied. Place lights and a radio on a timer, stop mail and newspaper delivery, or better yet hire a house sitter. The one room that can be occupied 24/7 is the BATHROOM. If your bathroom has a window, how about putting a lamp on a timer? That way any bad guy that may be checking your house or apartment out won’t know if our are coming or going.
° Got a party or two planned? Offer plenty of food, but you know there are still a few that will allow themselves to be “over served” Please make sure you have a designated drivers available or make arrangements with a cab company so your guest can get home safely..
° This time of year candles can be lovely, not to mention romantic. Please take care with pets or small children. Don’t forget to have your furnace and fire placed clean before the weather gets cold…carbon monoxide is a sneaky killer.
Yep, the holidays are a busy and fun time. Time for family and friends, good food and wine, and just a touch of common sense.
All of us a Confadate wish you and yours a Happy and Safe Holiday season, and look forward to serving you in 2009.
About the author:
Sandy is as retired police detective and certified fire fighter. She is now is a licensed private investigator specializing in safety training for men and women.
If you have any questions or wish to make a comment, please contact her at Confadate.
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Things You Should Know To Build A Successful Online Dating Profile
So you’ve decided to join one of the online dating services. Great! Lots of people today use the opportunities of online dating to find their half.
Well, if the theatre begins with a hanger, than online dating begins with a profile. With your profile. I mean, you can of course just surf other people’s profile and write to them without telling much about yourself in you own profile.
Your profile is an extremely (if not the most) important thing in online dating. Here I’ll give some advice on how to create an effective profile making your message inbox to burst with incoming messages.
Hardly anybody would be interested in a person who didn’t even try to write anything about what kind of person he is and it’s always more fun to receive messages with offers to meet and get acquainted. So let’s get started writing a successful online dating service profile that will attract attention!
1. Maybe the most important thing is being honest. Do not lie about your most obvious features: weight, height, social status, hair color and so on. The only feeling a person feels when he realizes he’d just been deceived is aggravation. You would want to count on any kind of continuation of communication.
2. Create a creative screen name. Maybe something about your personality will do or something about interests. Choose something that describes you in a best way.
3. While creating your screen name the main thing is to avoid being usual and boring. Be unique! How many “You may be the one I’m looking for” and “Looking to meet new people” you’ve seen? Use bright and ingenious words that are descriptive.
4. Don’t be afraid to stand out against the rest. Many people tend not to stand out in any way. Well, in internet it is unacceptable. Simply Nobody will notice you. Like Tchaikovsky, play blues, collecting coins? Tell about it! And besides you will surely find people with the same interests as you.
5. Describe yourself not just fully but also correctly. In the end, you are looking for a person that really matches you in all ways, not with fake interests and traits of character that you made up.
6. Don’t try to make up a perfect person which you want to seem. In a long-term period you simply won’t be capable to act all the time. Just be your best self.
7. Try to change you header message and photo often. Don’t be afraid to experiment. This will keep your profile fresh and keep people interested in you.
8. Don’t be negative in any way! Nobody wants to chat with a person who always has troubles at work, who thinks that life sucks, who is always disappointed. Instead be positive! Remember that being positive and fun is like a magnet.